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What’s the Big Deal About Porn?

“I don’t see what the problem is.  I’m not hurting anyone.”

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What’s the Big Deal About Porn?

It’s a statement that sums up the thought process of many who watch pornography.  After all, it’s better than actually going out and sleeping with someone, right?  As a teenager, I believed that thought process.  I thought that purity only encompassed my virginity.  As long as I maintained that status, I was good.  Pornography, in my very immature teenage opinion, was just a harmless form of release for pent up sexual tension, a safe place to sexually explore without the worry of bodily harm, STDs, or unplanned pregnancy.

The lie is that pornography is harmless, but it isn’t.  Pornography is more than just a poor choice of entertainment, and it is not a safe place for sexual exploration; it carries with it consequences that are far-reaching.

As Christians, the fundamental ‘wrong’ with porn is not that it is hurting someone else but that it is destroying something God celebrates.  God celebrates sex.  He created it.  Pornography is not wrong because sex is dirty; pornography is wrong because it isn’t sex.

There is no intimacy, just scripts, lights, and paychecks.  Women and men alike are reduced to a collection of body parts to be used for the pleasure of complete strangers.  One of the most intimate and powerful connections known to humanity is laid bare before the world, dulled down, made into 3 minute clips, sold or given away for free.

Let’s just say for a moment, though, that you were not a Christian.  Without that moral standard, would pornography still be a big deal?  Yes.  On many levels.

Physical

There is a growing acknowledgement of sexual dysfunction caused by porn use.  A growing number of young adult men are reporting sexual problems likely to be attributed to use of hardcore pornography use.  So there goes the idea that it enhances your sex life.

Mental

Science has proven that pornography use can lead to addiction with similar properties to addictions caused by cocaine.  It actually rewires your brain to crave porn and, because images can be stored in the mind, it might be actually harder to break a porn habit than a cocaine habit.  There is a great illustration on this process here (http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/Get-The-Facts/)

Relational

Because pornography, for all intents and purposes is a performance, therefore not realistic, it can cause unrealistic expectations in people’s lives.  Those expectations might be physical (your body needs to look a certain way), sexual (you should be able to do this more), or simply relational.

Pornography offers to meet needs without the ‘work’ of interacting with real people.  It does not represent real life and this can cause porn users to be unable to function properly in real life social situations.  Over half of marriages that end in divorce cite pornography as an issue in their marriage.

Social

On a broader scale, the argument can be made that the availability of pornography contributes to the demand on the sex trafficking industry. 

On that same note, since pornography is, essentially, the exploitation of women, and is violent toward women, it leads to a degraded view of women.  Women are viewed as sex objects to be used and discarded, like a favorite video.  The over sexualization of women leads women to believe that this is an acceptable way to be treated.

The lists of harms of pornography could go on.  Bottom line, whether you are a person of faith or not, pornography is a poison to the minds of our men and women, and boys and girls.  It is addictive and destructive and is not to be taken lightly. 

For more information on the effects of pornography, visit these websites: 

What do you think: do we as a culture see the big deal about porn?

About Jessica Harris

Jessica Harris is a Christian blogger, speaker and former porn addict. Since going public with her story in 2009, she has written for various ministries and travels, speaking on purity, addiction, and grace. She has self-published one book, an e-devotional entitled Love Done Right: Devos and is currently working on a book capturing her own journey into and out of porn addiction. She lives just north of Washington DC where she balances her ministry with being nanny to two adorable boys (both under two). You can read more of her story at Beggar’s Daughter and catch a glimpse into her reflections on life on her personal blog, Chai Dates with Grace.

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  1. […] Oh, it hurts, alright. In many different ways, it hurts. Pornography decreases our sexual satisfaction. It affects our relationships and lowers our view of women (or men). It affects us socially and desensitizes us to cruelty. It never satisfies but creates a gaping hole that claims satisfaction will be found with more…porn. (sources: 5 Reasons You Should Quit Porn Addiction and What’s the Big Deal About Porn?) […]

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